Horses and Self Reflection

Laura Nickel • March 25, 2025

Horses, the Mirror to our Souls

How Horses and Equine Assisted Coaching Facilitate Self-Discovery

Horses possess an extraordinary ability to help us achieve a conscious awareness of perceptions, feelings, and emotions, many of which remain subconscious in our daily lives. From a very young age, we are socialized to interact with others and navigate our environment, a necessity for societal function. However, this socialization can lead to a gradual disconnection from the deeper roots of our feelings and actions. Horses, on the other hand, are keenly attuned to our body language and intentions, a survival mechanism honed over millennia. This inherent awareness makes them invaluable partners in the coaching process. They live resolutely in the present moment, responding most effectively when we are genuine and authentic. As sentient beings, they provide a unique and honest reflection of our inner state.

A specially trained Equine Assisted Coach (EAC) brings a crucial layer of expertise to this interaction. They possess the ability to interpret the horse's responses to an individual, recognizing when the horse is mirroring a person's emotions. The EAC observes the dynamic between the person and the horse, facilitating a deeper understanding of the unspoken communication taking place. At Heart Song, we prioritize the fostering of a strong bond between horse and client, creating a foundation of trust and safety for both. This secure environment allows the EAC to create a space for the client to explore their inner landscape, eliciting insights that lead to growth, healing, creativity, and resourcefulness. The client's nonverbal, intuitive, and sensory brain, often overlooked, can now be heard and understood.

Your EAC designs purposeful activities to bring awareness to the client's internal perceptions. Once these perceptions are brought into the light of consciousness, the client gains the freedom to choose consciously or to make different choices. Because the EAC cannot read the client's mind, they engage in thoughtful questioning based on their observations, guiding the client towards self-discovery. The coaching process unfolds through carefully crafted activities with the horse, where the energy and intentions of both horse and client are observed and explored. After each activity, we engage in a process of reflection, using questions like, "What happened?", "Now what?", and "I noticed...is that accurate?" to facilitate deeper understanding.

The client's role in Equine Assisted Coaching is one of exploration and openness. There is no right or wrong way to act or feel. The activities are designed to foster awareness, learning, and healing within oneself. By embracing this process, clients can unlock hidden aspects of themselves and embark on a journey of self-discovery.














 



By Laura Nickel March 25, 2025
Why and How I Partner with Horses on the Path to Wholeness About fifteen years ago, I found myself at a crossroads, a point where life felt stagnant and ineffective. It was then that an unexpected opportunity arose: leading a Horse Trail Riding Program at a camp. This experience ignited an awareness within me – the healing power of horses. It wasn't just about my own personal relearning; I recognized the immense potential these magnificent animals held for helping others. This realization sparked a deep dive into the world of Equine Therapy, Equine Learning, and Equine Coaching. I immersed myself in books on trauma, somatic healing approaches, breath-work, grounding, and mindfulness, driven by a desire to understand how to bridge my background in Child Development with the transformative power of horses. This journey has culminated in a unique and effective approach, one that prioritizes relationship healing, emotional regulation, and the alleviation of anxiety and stress. The result of this dedication is a practice where I guide individuals in rediscovering their courageous, creative, and knowing selves. We humans possess an incredible capacity for resilience, for recovering from life's inevitable bumps and bruises. Yet, sometimes we lose our way, needing a compassionate guide to lead us back to wholeness. Experience is our most potent teacher, and horses serve as remarkable healers, assisting individuals on their journey of self-awareness and self-discovery. Scientific studies have demonstrated that simply being in the presence of horses can balance the brain and facilitate healing for both mind and body. When we cultivate a connection with ourselves, we naturally connect more deeply with others and the world around us. Investing time and energy in inner healing and self-improvement is an investment in our overall well-being. Early attachment issues and stress can manifest in various ways, including sensory integration challenges, attention deficits, and impulse control problems. Neuroscientists have discovered that stress and trauma can alter the brain's pathways. Fortunately, these pathways can be healed through reconnection. Partnering with a properly trained professional and bonding with a horse can significantly improve brain balance. Horses naturally regulate our breathing and blood pressure, offering a non-judgmental presence that encourages us to live in the present moment. By utilizing horse psychology and carefully observing the interactions between horse and participant, I help increase awareness of internal and external experiences. I act as a facilitator, observing and assisting the flow of energy and intention. The horse, in essence, mirrors the participant's inner state, allowing me to guide them towards an understanding of underlying currents that may be hidden from conscious awareness. I do not judge or provide solutions; rather, I create a safe space for participants to process their thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and patterns. Purposeful activities, combined with techniques like breath-work, meditation, and relaxation, are designed to foster self-discovery and joy. Horses are sentient, relational beings, responding to our energy, intentions, emotions, and movements. We partner with these mystical animals to reintroduce love, vitality, and joy into our lives. Together, we explore, play, relate, reflect, and process, uncovering what holds us back and what we need to move forward as happier, healthier individuals. In our coaching sessions, you will partner with a horse to connect with your inner and outer communications, finding healing for your heart, mind, and soul. Some potential outcomes include learning to trust yourself and others, releasing negative reactions, developing courage and leadership, and finding creative solutions to challenges. You define your goals, set your course, and follow your own path, while I coach you alongside a horse who will be your guide on this transformative healing journey.
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